Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why isn’t anything changing?”
Maybe it’s in your relationships.
Maybe it’s in how you feel — stuck, unseen, or misunderstood.
You’re showing up, but deep down you know… something has to shift.
Here’s what I’ve learned on my journey:
Change doesn’t begin when they understand you.
Change begins when you decide to grow.
We often place a silent demand on others to meet us halfway, to see us more clearly, to respond the way we long for. But what if the breakthrough you’re praying for isn’t going to come from them — but from your decision to evolve?
You Can’t Control Them. But You Can Choose Growth.
You can’t force someone else to heal, grow, or change.
That’s not your job.
And that truth — while hard — can also be incredibly freeing.
The only thing you can control is YOU:
- Your response
- Your healing
- Your investment in your own growth
God didn’t call us to conform to our trauma, or to the patterns of our parents or partners. Yet many of us unknowingly absorb those patterns — and begin to live from that place.
I’ve been there too.
I’ve experienced bullying, rejection, and sexual trauma.
And for a long time, I didn’t even realize that the version of myself I understood was one shaped by survival… not truth.
Sometimes I was overly accommodating and people-pleasing.
Other times, I was sharp and passive-aggressive.
But neither version was the real me.
Your True Self Exists — And She’s Worth Discovering.
God created you in His image:
Stable.
Sound-minded.
Powerful.
Consistent.
He is the same yesterday, today, and forever — and He calls us to grow into His likeness, not into the wounded patterns we inherited.
So the question becomes:
What if the person you think you are… isn’t the real you?
What if trauma shaped that version, but healing is inviting you into someone greater?
It’s Time to Evolve.
This season is about becoming the best version of yourself — the one God had in mind when He formed you. And that requires intentionality.
It requires courage.
It requires awareness.
And yes, it requires support.
That’s why I’ve created resources to help you take that next step, if you’re ready:
🌟 Resources to Support Your Growth:
🧭 Awareness & Direction Tool
Discover what’s really holding you back — and gain clarity on how to move forward.
👉 Access the Tool Here
🎥 YouTube Video: Embracing New Beginnings
Watch this encouraging message about leaving behind comfort zones and stepping into purpose.
👉 Watch the Video
You don’t have to wait for anyone else to change.
You don’t have to keep replaying the same cycles.
Your transformation starts now — and it starts with you.
Let’s grow together. 💜
-Coach Miriam
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